The strong friend. How many of us are the STRONG friend? You know, the friend that people rely on in their times of need... The friend that everyone confides in because you always know what to say to make others feel better...The friend that puts others at ease with their mere presence. We all know a strong friend, whether it's in our friendship circle or family. Heck, it may even be you. Maybe you’re the attuned listening ear that puts everyone’s problems before his or her own.
Problem is, those that play these roles are usually left to deal with their own problems alone. I know, you’re nodding your head in agreement or maybe have the hallelujah hand raised. You may also be thinking, “Well, no one is a mind reader. If they don't tell anyone about their problems, how can anyone know what they're going through?” And you're right! No one is a mind reader, but by simply asking if everything is good with them and paying attention to how they respond will let you know enough. Be a listening ear like they are for you. Exchanges should be balanced, no one likes a leech.
Dear strong friend, even though it comes natural to you to take care of everyone, make sure it's not at the cost of your own peace of mind. To avoid resentment, make sure you set clear boundaries between you and others. Learn to be there for you, the way you're there for others. Even our everyday “superheroes” need self-care.