I'm not someone that likes to wait on people. I learned early on that this is the quickest way to make yourself miserable. When other people's behaviour affects your happiness, you know you have given your power away. Make sure the key to your happiness stays firmly in your pocket at all times.
If the root of your fear is based on what others say, ask yourself this question - when you look back on your life and think about all the things you didn't do for fear of what others thought, how will you feel? let's be real though when you're out and you see people by themselves do you even focus on them? Everybody is in their own world either immersed in their own problems or with their +1 to even notice, trust me. If everyone was to be looking your way it would probably be out of admiration.
As you get older you stop caring about others opinions and start focusing on the opinions you hold of yourself, and those are way more important. There's something so liberating about doing things alone, whether it's taking your self to the cinema, an event, travelling, shopping etc. Get comfortable with being alone. We come into this world alone and we leave the same way, so why it's seen as weird to go out by yourself is very odd to me. The longer you depend on other people for your happiness, only delays happiness arriving in your life.
Here are 3 ways to build your confidence:
1. Change your attitude. Give yourself a pep talk, listen to Beyoncé or whomever it is that you wish to embody and focus on the positive aspects of this. You will be so proud of yourself after
2. Start small. So, it's time to get out of your comfort zone but to prevent being overwhelmed, try going somewhere that's not too populated like a fitness or art class.
3. Make friends. Wherever you choose to go, be social and make friends. Not only will this ease the awkwardness of just standing around feeling self-conscious, it will also help you to practice your social skills and within no time you'll have gained a bunch of new friends. So, put your security device aka your phone away and get stuck in.
Wherever you decide to go, make sure you are able to get home safely. For that reason I wouldn't recommend dutch courage, just feel the fear and go!